I reflected on this question today as I looked back through my pictures. "What is it that stopped me from taking the plunge sooner?" I think it's a rather apt question given the current goings on in the world. I see many posts and responses almost lamenting the fact that they don't engage with bondage anywhere near as much as they'd want to. So I pass a similar question to you.
What is the primary factor that stops you from fulfilling your bondage desires?
Location? Time? Money? Security is another big one. Will people find out who I am? Does it matter? Am I invested enough to truly make this a hobby? All genuine answers. Looking more widely into the community however, I feel there is a great deal more to it. In my experience a large stopping force is often the mindset we put ourselves in. A few close friends have openly admitted that the option was always there to go deeper but they never did, often with regret. Some of their answers hit close to home. Feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, vulnerability, that the whole thing is overwhelming, that they're not serious enough. We look back and laugh but I had hoped that perhaps by even asking you all, some might be more willing to build up the courage.
A bonus question for you:
Do you see yourself pursuing more bondage in the future?
I'll share my hurdles to get started.
Before I was the bratty little rope bunny I am today I spent most of my time hiding away from he happiness that bondage provided. I can say with certainty that I was disgusted at myself for not only engaging with, but also enjoying bondage. It took a great deal of mental anguish and a few psychologist trips to finally come to an understanding. I was not only allowed to engage with bondage but that I should also allow myself to enjoy it too.
The second hurdle came once I clicked on my first site. In a world of so many other people with experience and passion how could little me possibly find anyone to tie me up? I was overwhelmed with self doubt, I felt insecure about my looks, my body, everything. I meekly made my way to my first proper meeting with like minded individuals. It was horrible... at first. I sat in my car for a solid 20 minutes processing everyone who walked into the venue. I walked in, pretended to not know where they were so I didn't have to make the first move. Got introduced to everyone and sat down. These people were not supermodels nor were they intimidating, they were people, regular people. The more time I spent with them the more I relaxed and forgot myself, I opened up about all my bondage fantasies and made some of my best friends to date.
It took a while of building friendships and trust that I finally asked one of my friends if I could be tied up. They did and I loved it, with the motivation to do more I developed a more confident lifestyle and over the years I've made massive strides. I get asked to bunny all the time by all my friends whether it be for a learning experience or a small photo shoot. All because one day I decided I would follow my bondage passion
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Sorry if this ragged on a bit but I genuinely love seeing people have fun with their passions and want to know more about what's stopping more form doing it.