I should probably also mention that we renovated another room right before Covid to make it a dedicated office space—which ended up being a great decision, obviously. That was primarily my space for a while, but my wife has since completely taken it over (to include the dual 27”-monitor computer setup that I so painstakingly researched and put together) as her workspace. Given that, she agreed to let me do what I want with the third bedroom.
We’ve been calling it many things during this renovation—my “man cave”, bondage room, office dungeon. So, while it will be our dedicated bondage space—it will also serve as my home office, media room, and music room.
The centerpiece (literally and figuratively, I think) will be a custom queen-size steel bondage bed with an enclosed smaller cage underneath. At first, I was going to go for something that could possibly pass as just an extremely masculine-looking bed…but at some point, I just snapped and decided to go all-in. So, now it’s going to have a cage, overhead bars, as well as multiple hook points all around the frame.
I don’t have it exactly planned out right now, but I think I want one of the walls to be made with concrete-looking slat wall. This will be to hang all of my most often used chains, cuffs, gags, straps, and other leather gear. For overall aesthetics, the adjacent wall (where the bed’s headboard will be) is now covered completely with dark slate tile. That wall turned out really well.
Other non-kink/bondage stuff that will be in the room include a large-screen TV at the foot of the bed, a small electric piano (which is already there), and a mini-fridge/snack area. Wife says it’s going to be too cramped with everything I want…but I’m determined to make it work!
I’ll also mention that we’ve been working with a local interior designer throughout this process—with the main focus currently being on our “den” area (which has also been a neglected area). I initially told her that the third bedroom was just going to be my man cave…but with the bed’s design, that half-truth wouldn’t have lasted very long. So, a couple of months ago, I had to “come clean” and let her know that this was also going to be my bondage room/dungeon—to make sure she and her team would be comfortable moving forward with that space.
She didn’t blink an eye, and just said, “Yeah, we figured.” Very much to my relief.
I can imagine between seeing the dark slate wall and me describing a large steel four-poster bed…maybe this fact was more obvious than I thought it would be. She took care to also mention that they’ve “seen everything” and to provide them any descriptions and pictures that I wanted to help with the design process, as nothing would surprise them.The bed won’t be here for another couple of months or so, and I can imagine the whole room won’t be completed until early next year—well, hopefully sooner, but we’ll see.
I’m obviously excited, as this is something that I’ve wanted to do for years…but we’ve never really been able to do for one reason or another. My wife’s excited as well (mostly out of support for me), but she’s expressed her genuine thrill at not having to worry anymore about stepping on locks and chains in the middle of the night on our bedroom floor.
As for where family will stay when they visit? I don’t have that part entirely figured out. All of our family (my side and hers) know of our kinks (my wife isn’t a terribly discreet individual), so at least we won’t have to make any weird excuses as to why the third bedroom (which is under lock and key) is no longer available. As a side note, we’re looking at options to include having a fold-out bed in den as the alternative.
So, with all of that said—which turned out to be much longer than I thought it would be—does anyone have other recommendations for such a space? Any other additions or considerations, in terms of either functionality or aesthetics?
I’m also curious to see what where everyone else’s TUGs/bondage sessions take place. Do you have a dedicated room or play space? Is it a multi-functional space? If it’s a dedicated space, what (if anything) do you tell friends/family/guests when they’re over (“Can’t go in there, that room’s a mess.”)? Do you have hard attachment points to walls or anything else?