BoundSynth wrote: ↑3 years ago
Hey! Yeah thanks for your insight that makes sense! Would you say though that the reason you like him being at your mercy is because of the juxtaposition of having a strong man being helpless or do you enjoy him being helpless for the thrill of him being essentially completely under your control? I suppose the crux of my question and what I’d like to understand is that it is possible to be valuable as a woman whether you want to be strong and independent or helpless and submissive; is there an equivalent for men? Is it possible for a man to be a “damsel” and not have to always be strong and have that be attractive purely because he is helpless and needs to be rescued? I find the whole discussion fascinating because it speaks so much to what we value as a society and I’d just like to know how other people view submissive men and if we can be valuable too.
Great break down of the question!
I love to go very deep with these conversations, so here's my take:
It depends on everyone's tastes, which can be variable/flexible. For example:
* Submissive tied ladies that enjoy being tied up
* Submissive tied ladies that don't enjoy being tied up (movies or through RP, leading to despair and crying)
* Dominant ladies (or ladies with an imposing image, like cops and heroines) tied, that struggle a lot and try to get out
* Dominant ladies that accept their peril, but still mad (like staring with anger, reduced struggle, mphing back at whatever the "bad guy" says).
Then come other factors that people evaluate differently:
* Visual appearance (outfits, visual quality of the bondage, makeup, other general visual stuff)
* Effectiveness of the bondage (whatever lies between sloppy and inefective bondage to truly exaggerated and inescapable bondage)
* Distress (from being just in a bedroom, to be in a lethal situation)
* Relationship with the tied person (this can or not create certain feelings)
* Desires/goals (how badly you desired to have her or someone tied/gagged, or specifically her; what do you want to do to while tied up, etc)
As a switch, I would also love to get effectively bound and gagged and be sensually dominated by a woman, the thing is that this isn't as common outside of a relationship and Dommes usually go the pain route which is a big no no for me, and I understand that this isn't what most dominant ladies would want, so fulfilling my desires has been VERY difficult to say the least.