What they don't tell you about TUGs...
Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2019 1:33 am
Hey everyone. I just figured that this site could use some more honest discussions about the realities of tying each other up. So, here's a thread where we can talk about the facts of life that often get lost in the fantasies of the internet world.
I'll start off with five facts that you don't often hear on bondage sites.
Scissors won't cut rope. - A lot of sites will tell you to always have an emergency pair of scissors nearby in case you have to cut your sub loose in a hurry. That's not a bad idea, but the surgical scissors that they advertise for that will not accomplish this. Especially if there's a lot of rope involved. A sharp knife is much better suited for that job, but that comes with its own set of problems.
Safewords are overrated. - Everybody's heard of them, but very rarely are they actually necessary. 'No' means no, and if your sub says 'no', then stop! The only time a safeword might actually come in handy, is if your sub is putting on a nonconsensual act as part of a roleplay. By contrast, safesignals are very important once gags come into play, because in that scenario the sub can't express what's wrong. Think stuff like snapping your fingers, clapping your hands, or blinking a lot.
Not everybody likes feet. - There's a stereotype that if anyone has a kink they also have a foot fetish. That stereotype can go die anytime now. There are a lot of different kinks out there, and they are not mutually exclusive with loving feet. So ask before you gag your sub with a dirty sock or smother them with your sweaty soles.
Never leave your sub alone. - We see it time and time again on the internet. Someone gets helplessly bound and gagged and left to struggle all alone. DO. NOT. DO. THAT! It doesn't matter if you did a good job tightening your binds just right. If your sub is all alone and something goes wrong, what's he/she supposed to do about it? Have everything all set up beforehand so that you don't have to run off only to come back and find that your sub's arms have gone numb, or your candles started a fire, or some other emergency.
It takes a long time to tie somebody up. - Even a simple boxtie involves a lot of rope, and it can be really tedious to apply a more complex bind. You'll likely find yourself fighting with tangled rope, going back three steps to fix a mistake, or even stopping to look at instructions. It takes a lot of practice, and it's not as easy as the internet would have you beleive. So doms: don't get frustrated. And subs: be patient.
I hope somebody finds at least one of these facts helpful. Feel free to contribute your own knowledge for any of the readers who might be less experienced.
I'll start off with five facts that you don't often hear on bondage sites.
Scissors won't cut rope. - A lot of sites will tell you to always have an emergency pair of scissors nearby in case you have to cut your sub loose in a hurry. That's not a bad idea, but the surgical scissors that they advertise for that will not accomplish this. Especially if there's a lot of rope involved. A sharp knife is much better suited for that job, but that comes with its own set of problems.
Safewords are overrated. - Everybody's heard of them, but very rarely are they actually necessary. 'No' means no, and if your sub says 'no', then stop! The only time a safeword might actually come in handy, is if your sub is putting on a nonconsensual act as part of a roleplay. By contrast, safesignals are very important once gags come into play, because in that scenario the sub can't express what's wrong. Think stuff like snapping your fingers, clapping your hands, or blinking a lot.
Not everybody likes feet. - There's a stereotype that if anyone has a kink they also have a foot fetish. That stereotype can go die anytime now. There are a lot of different kinks out there, and they are not mutually exclusive with loving feet. So ask before you gag your sub with a dirty sock or smother them with your sweaty soles.
Never leave your sub alone. - We see it time and time again on the internet. Someone gets helplessly bound and gagged and left to struggle all alone. DO. NOT. DO. THAT! It doesn't matter if you did a good job tightening your binds just right. If your sub is all alone and something goes wrong, what's he/she supposed to do about it? Have everything all set up beforehand so that you don't have to run off only to come back and find that your sub's arms have gone numb, or your candles started a fire, or some other emergency.
It takes a long time to tie somebody up. - Even a simple boxtie involves a lot of rope, and it can be really tedious to apply a more complex bind. You'll likely find yourself fighting with tangled rope, going back three steps to fix a mistake, or even stopping to look at instructions. It takes a lot of practice, and it's not as easy as the internet would have you beleive. So doms: don't get frustrated. And subs: be patient.
I hope somebody finds at least one of these facts helpful. Feel free to contribute your own knowledge for any of the readers who might be less experienced.